We confirmed you their celebration, now learn their nontraditional handfasting ceremony script! After researching tons of handfasting ceremony scripts and pagan marriage ceremony ceremony scripts for his or her queer burlesque celebration, Mx. Pucks discovered that almost all of them have been extraordinarily gendered and swayed in the direction of monogamy and one real love. So that they determined to put in writing their very own non-possessive and nontraditional handfasting ceremony script.
Navigating the gendered language and among the extra outdated concepts of what dedication can seem like has but once more highlighted how a lot the patriarchy is a ache within the ass. Acknowledging the love Pucks shares with different companions and the love Josh and so they share for his or her pals and communities guided the creation of their ceremony script.
Mx. Pucks shared a snippet of their ceremony script at their celebration and we knew we needed to learn extra! Behold, the non-gendered, poly-friendly handfasting ceremony script all of us wanted.
Mx. Pucks and Josh’s nontraditional and non-possessive ceremony script
Excessive Priestess Briq: Good night and hey y’all!
We’re gathered right here to have fun two people which have touched us all…a few of us in additional methods than others.
When these two wildly distinctive and artistic people known as upon me to be the Excessive Priestess for his or her handfasting ceremony I knew that this present day can be a mirrored image of not solely their love for one another, however of the love they’ve for the communities, pals, partnerships, and households that they’re part of and have created individually and collectively.
First, earlier than we proceed we want to invite their ancestors into the house that want to be right here and bear witness to their binding. We’d additionally like to ask those who have choices for the altar to please strategy now.
[The Queen’s Guard or wedding party place the items on the altar.]
The one gendered language for use for Pucks might be Queen. Lots of you might already know that Josh’s final identify is King. These two might be known as such by this ceremony.
This ceremony isn’t about possession. This ceremony isn’t about monogamy. This ceremony isn’t about one real love.
Each this Queen and King have an understanding of affection that goes past eros, pragma, and ludus. These two consider in a common love which they share with us, their pals, household, and neighborhood. At present this Queen and King wish to bind their arms in entrance of us, their pals, household, and lovers as an indication of dedication to one another. They’ve invited us to witness their settlement to one another underneath this September sky with the solar and moon trying on as nicely.
I am going to ask Rebecca to step ahead to present us a studying.
Rebecca: “That whereas a associate can add candy dimension to our lives, we, every of us, are accountable for our personal achievement. No one else can present it for us, and to consider in any other case is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure each relationship we enter.
Love is the final word outlaw. It simply will not adhere to any guidelines. Probably the most any of us can do is to signal on as its confederate. As a substitute of vowing to honor and obey, possibly we must always swear to help and abet. That will imply that safety is out of the query. The phrases ‘make’ and ‘keep’ develop into inappropriate. My love for you has no strings connected. I really like you free of charge.”
-Tom Robbins’ Nonetheless Life With Woodpecker
Excessive Priestess Briq: King and the Queen will now share their vows with one another.
[The King and Queen give their vows.]
Excessive Priestess Briq:
Queen informed me they love the best way that King loves and cares for Queen’s son.
King informed me he loves how Queen’s eyes are like the colour of most darkest, most scrumptious root beer.
These two have chosen to alternate rings full of roses, gold leaf, and hashish. They’ve additionally chosen to share a pipe full of their two favourite strains, like the 2 of them coming collectively, mixing and changing into one thing much more particular.
[On the altar there are two stash jars, each with their own strain of cannabis, a grinder, a lighter and a pipe. Josh and Pucks add their strain to the grinder and each take a turn grinding it. Josh packs it and they both took turns taking a hit.]
Excessive Priestess Briq: This wire, braided in black and purple will bind these two, collectively.
“Reaching out and taking somebody’s hand is the start of a journey. At different occasions, it’s permitting one other to take yours.” – Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration
“The hand can by no means execute something greater than the guts can think about.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Excessive Priestess Briq:
The King could kiss The Queen.