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Episode #139: Our Favourite Issues


At present, we’re doing a favourite issues episode! We’re additionally sharing our pet peeves, responsible pleasures, and our e-book report on Suppose Like A Monk by Jay Shetty.

We made a just-for-fun quiz I feel our podcast listeners will like. It’s referred to as “What Nancy Meyers Film Are You?” Inform us within the feedback what film you’re (and I’ll inform you what I received).

Favourite journey:
Elsie – Blue Lagoon in Iceland, Nice Wall in China, and Disney
Emma – Norway

Favourite parenting reminiscence to date:
Elsie – Making books and the tune Moon River
Emma – All of Oscar’s firsts and month-to-month photos with donuts

Favourite aspect characters from Harry Potter:
Elsie – Fred and George
Emma – Dobby

Random pet peeves:
Elsie – Leaving a glass in a room she simply cleaned, when individuals suppose they’re all the time proper
Emma – Loud chewing, spacial consciousness in public, and negativity

DIY you’d by no means do once more:
Elsie – Attempting to squeeze one thing in once I don’t have the time
Emma – Binding a quilt collectively

Elsie: You’re listening to the A Stunning Mess podcast. This week we’re doing a favourite issues episode that’s random and enjoyable. We’re chatting about our pet peeves, responsible pleasures, and we’re additionally sharing our e-book report of Suppose like A Monk by Jay Shetty. All proper. All proper. I’m excited. 

Emma: Okay, so this episode is about favourite issues. So this was a listener request state of affairs, which, truthfully, a whole lot of our podcast episodes are listener requests. So you probably have a request of one thing…

Elsie: You say it, we do it. I identical to to write down down every little thing that individuals ship us. Each single week we get a message that’s such as you did my concept.

Emma: Yeah. We’re like, yeah, we did so there you go. So we’re simply gonna undergo like a lot of completely different favourite issues. We did an episode like this actually early on however that’s been so lengthy that I really feel like and these are like, new favourite issues, I suppose you would say. 

Elsie: That is like favourite issues of all time sort of state of affairs. Not like favourite issues of final 12 months. 

Emma: This one is a previous 12 months, although, favourite e-book you’ve learn this previous 12 months, ideally one we haven’t essentially talked about, not from the e-book membership. 

Elsie: Sure. As a result of yeah, I’ve talked about many of the books I’ve learn, however I do have one which I haven’t, or that I haven’t talked about but. That’s station 11. So I’m obsessive about station 11. So first, it began with this. We watched the TV present, didn’t even comprehend it was based mostly on a e-book. However I cherished the TV present. So then I heard that it was based mostly on a e-book as a result of as quickly as I used to be watching the present, I used to be like Googling round as a result of I wished the comedian e-book from the present. So anyway, the novel that was a bestseller I suppose for like a extremely very long time, like 10 years in the past or so. So Emma was like, yeah, everybody who reads already learn that e-book a very long time in the past, Elsie. And I used to be like, okay, effectively I that I’ve by no means even heard earlier than. However I heard individuals say that the e-book is de facto completely different from the TV present they usually’re each so good. So I learn the e-book after that and it was unbelievable. It was actually completely different from the TV present. So yeah, I may speak about that for a extremely very long time so I’ll simply lower myself off early and simply say, it doesn’t matter what order if you wish to watch and browse. You can’t spoil one with the opposite as a result of I feel that it’s virtually just like the TV present was a fanfiction of the e-book as a result of they modified so many issues that I believed it was actually fascinating and funky. So anyway, what e-book have you ever learn these days? 

Emma: Nicely, with station 11, although, I did learn that a very long time in the past. I like the way you revealed that I’m identical to a snobby b*tch to you behind the scenes.

Elsie: No, I imply, truthfully you weren’t the one individual that stated that. I do know now that it’s a extremely well-known e-book I simply didn’t know that at the beginning.

Emma: No, it doesn’t matter in any respect. It’s very humorous. Yeah. So anyway, so two books I learn this previous 12 months that I cherished a e-book referred to as Yolk so like an egg yolk, and it’s about two sisters dwelling in New York, it primarily facilities on one in every of them, they usually type of reconnect. They’re each Asian and Korean in order that they type of have like this kind of household dynamic with their mother with that. I gained’t say an excessive amount of. It’s not that they’re spoilers, however I feel you’ll be able to simply get into it. However I’ll say upfront, it does should do with consuming problems so if that’s the factor you don’t need to examine simply heads up. However it’s fantastically written. This writer, she has, I imagine, three novels out, I’ve learn all three, I really like them. I’m an enormous fangirl, comply with her on Instagram, depart her messages. She’s simply actually, actually cool and this e-book was wonderful. I cherished it. I learn it this final summer season, nonetheless enthusiastic about it. Then the opposite one is The Lager Queen of Minnesota, which is about brewing beer. It’s additionally type of about two sisters and a few household dynamics between them. It’s multi-generational. This writer is a person and I imagine he’s written two books, that is the second they usually each have actually well-written sturdy feminine characters. Not that males can’t write that manner due to course they’ll. However it’s simply fascinating. I really like this writer. I really like each of his books a lot. This one was actually lovely. You additionally bonus get to be taught rather a lot about brewing beer within the e-book as effectively. 

Elsie: Oh, that’s very enjoyable. 

Emma: Simply placing it on the market in case anybody doesn’t know, I publish a whole lot of books that I learn on my Instagram, which is @emmaredvelvet. I’ve a hashtag which is #emmareads. So if you wish to see issues I’ve learn that’s the perfect place to see it. 

Elsie: That’s superior. Okay, so the subsequent query is a favourite nostalgic film which you can watch again and again. That is my final.

Emma: Yeah, so mine doesn’t say nostalgic. So I don’t know if mine qualifies, however I put down Knives Out.

Elsie: I put Knives Out too. Okay, Knives out is, it’s rewatchable. The primary time I watched it I didn’t suppose it might be as a result of it’s who carried out it, like clue. It’s rewatchable for different causes, for the home porn as you all know. It’s an enormous deal to us. 

Emma: Rewatch on a regular basis. Generally if I simply need one thing on within the background and I’m hanging out with Oscar. We’re not likely watching TV, simply so there’s a bit of little bit of noise. 

Elsie: That’s how I ought to have phrased it’s like background. Okay, so my different ones are relying on the time of 12 months. I really like rewatching Father of the Bride, and likewise the there’s two Father of the Brides. Additionally, did we ever discuss concerning the Father of the Bride like two factors no matter. 

Emma: I don’t suppose we did. 

Elsie: I don’t suppose we’ve ever talked about this. So for those who didn’t know, they made a Father of the Bride quick movie, the unique solid just lately. It was like type of a quarantine theme. They clearly made it in in 2020 and Zoom state of affairs and I bawled. I like bawled. We watched it just lately when Emma visited me and Jeremy was like, I feel they made that factor only for you. I don’t suppose it might be rewatchable however it like received me in a heartwarming place. 

Emma: It was very candy. It was additionally a really fascinating inventive train as a result of it was like, we’re going to write down a brief film, however everybody’s going to be on Zoom. So it’s like, effectively, what can occur? What may presumably you understand what I imply?  I believed they did a wonderful job. It’s very enjoyable. So look it up. It’s on the YouTube. 

Elsie: Yeah, it’s on YouTube. Then my final one is Hocus Pocus. I’m so excited. This fall is lastly gonna be that sequel that I’ve been ready for, like three years. It’s positively one in every of my favourite films of all time. It’s foolish. It’s for youths. However each fall I prefer to identical to put it on whereas I’m working. Particularly if there’s like a fall craft. Okay, the subsequent favourite factor is a favourite weblog you learn So, just lately, lots of people have been asking us what blogs do you learn, however individuals often phrase it as like nonetheless learn. I hate how individuals speak about blogs. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. So I nonetheless use Bloglovin and it’s a subscription web site the place you’ll be able to simply subscribe to all of your favourite blogs. It’s not a subscription, it’s a reader. So principally you go on the web site every single day and it exhibits you the primary thumbnail and the title of the weblog publish. 

Emma: It’s type of like whenever you subscribe to podcasts after which they pop up in your library as they’ve new episodes, similar factor however for blogs. 

Elsie: So if you wish to comply with a bunch of blogs, however a whole lot of those you comply with don’t replace every single day, then Bloglovin is an effective useful resource for that. So anyway, my favourite blogs are. I’ve two, they’re each by somebody named Julia. So the primary one is Chris loves Julia, which is, it’s an exquisite, fantastic, fantastic house weblog. I bear in mind again in like, the very previous days I used to be on their podcast, they don’t also have a podcast anymore. They’re fantastic and I really like their weblog. I like following their renovations. It’s very constant. They’ve a brand new publish virtually every single day, which I really like that. My different favourite weblog is Julia Berolzheimer’s weblog, and I like it as a result of it’s really principally only a buying theme. Day by day she exhibits you lovely life-style photos after which buying hyperlinks. Lots of it’s organized by theme. She has much more house stuff now than she used to so it’s not all vogue and she or he additionally has two children. Oh, she simply had a baby named Marigold. Did you see that? 

Emma: Oh, I don’t see what she did. 

Elsie: Anyhow, I’ve cherished her for a very long time however I might say out of all of the bloggers’ homes she’s most likely received like my primary favourite blogger home. It’s beautiful. Yeah, and her vogue model is unbelievable. She likes bizarre little issues like bizarre little house issues and I like that stuff. So yeah, it’s a good learn. We’ll hyperlink all of those within the present notes by the best way. What are your favourite blogs?

Emma: So I put down three, two are meals blogs. Shock, shock. Two meals blogs that I examine on a regular basis is Pinch of Yum and likewise Half Baked Harvest. 

Elsie: I really like each of these. 

Emma: Yeah, I really like them a lot. I’ve made so many recipes from each of them. Half Baked Harvest, Tegan, her pictures model is type of very completely different from different meals blogs that I comply with and it’s simply actually cool. I really feel like she type of does this virtually like anthropology catalog meals weblog model or no matter. It’s actually, actually inspiring.

Elsie: It’s like a bit of bit rustic, a bit of bit moody. 

Emma: Yeah, yeah. Yeah. A little bit bit moody, darker colours at instances. She additionally has these barns and she or he lives in a single and she or he has a kitchen in a single. They’re like very renovated. These are actually lovely.

Elsie: She has a pizza oven in her kitchen. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s price clicking throughout her web site for those who haven’t visited it earlier than. So sure. She has cookbooks out. I’ve made a lot of issues from her cookbooks, love them a lot. Then additionally Steffy’s Execs and Cons.  

Elsie: I really like Steffy. 

Emma: Sure, I really feel like everybody follows her on Instagram as it’s best to as a result of she’s only a dose of happiness. However her weblog has much more. So for those who like her on Instagram, it’s best to learn her weblog. Generally she’ll prefer to have type of an extended kind speaking publish, or simply share just a bit greater than what you see on Instagram. So it’s enjoyable to compensate for that and I actually prefer it. Okay, subsequent one favourite consolation meals. 

Elsie: Oh, yeah. We also needs to say on a regular basis meals that was on Instagram. Everybody needs to know like your like, favourite on a regular basis dinner. Okay, so my favourite consolation meals is unquestionably pasta. I’ve two, pasta and cereal milk ice cream from Milkbar is my new favourite ice cream of all time. It’s superb, mind-blowing.

Emma: Yeah, I had it with you and it was so good. I really don’t need to purchase it for my home as a result of I do know I’m simply going to eat it a lot. However my primary consolation meals might be baked macaroni and cheese. I consider it as type of a vacation meals. I do make it exterior of Thanksgiving and Christmas however I all the time make it for Thanksgiving and Christmas. When anybody’s gonna make me a home made dinner that’s like for my birthday, that’s one factor that I usually request is baked macaroni and cheese as a result of I like it and it’s simply so indulgent. So, I suppose related, pasta as a result of it’s pasta.

Elsie: My on a regular basis dinner like my simple go-to dinner is unquestionably dumplings. So frozen dumplings from Dealer Joe’s, we eat them no less than as soon as every week. I eat them for lunch rather a lot and type of identical to anytime I want one thing actually quick. I often air fryer them. I feel they’re actually good steamed additionally, however I just like the crunchy air fryer factor so I often try this. What about you?

Emma: Mine’s air-fried too, dinner that we have now no less than as soon as every week is air-fried hen wings. We make sizzling wings each week. I’ve that on the weblog. I can hyperlink it within the present notes.

Elsie: Okay, so what’s your favourite journey you’ve ever been on? 

Emma: Most likely my favourite of all time is when Trey and I went to Norway. We went to an space that’s, I feel you pronounce it love Lofoten, one thing like that. It’s only a actually lovely place. I really like being heat and I really like heat climate however for no matter purpose, I’m actually drawn to locations which are identical to chilly and quiet. You possibly can see the Northern Lights, I’ve an actual affinity for the Northern Lights. My dream trip sometime is to go to Antarctica in order that’s type of dear. So we’ll see. However someday, I’ll get there.

Elsie: That sounds magical. 

Emma: I additionally love Iceland. That may be like my runner-up. I’ve been there twice and likewise received to see the northern lights. 

Elsie: Good. So I type of need to say Iceland. I type of need to say China, however it’s like China wasn’t actually, adoption journeys are fairly completely different from trip, however it was nonetheless like the perfect journey. I don’t know. Okay, I’ll simply say the after we went to the Blue Lagoon in Iceland, that second from that journey, and when in China after we went to the Nice Wall and we received to go down the enormous slide. 

Emma: That was cool. 

Elsie: That was like so particular and funky and peculiar and Nova received to do it with us too. It was magical. However yeah, so far as my favourite, at this second in my life, my favourite reminiscence of journeys is truthfully going to Disney with my children. I perceive it’s like so cliche however there’s simply nothing higher than taking your little child that loves Frozen on the Frozen experience and doing it 5 instances in a row, There’s simply nothing higher in the entire world once they’re in that deep of an obsession. I don’t know. I would love to, I don’t know the way it’s gonna work out, however I would love to go to a few of the Worldwide Disneyland parks. I feel that can be very fascinating. Particularly the Japan one or perhaps the Paris one. Hopefully within the subsequent few years, we’ll get an opportunity to do this however we’ll see.

Emma: Yeah, that sounds actually enjoyable and completely different. I’d love to do this. This one is favourite or most memorable parenting reminiscence to date. I really feel just like the to date was for me as a result of it’s solely like 9 months plus a being pregnant.

Elsie: Oh, I feel all the time to date. It’s all the time like that since you all the time really feel like the perfect instances are nonetheless forward of you. So my children have this factor, I don’t know the way it began, however it’s so magical. So each now and again, they’re not all the time within the temper to do it, however each now and again, I might say like each six months, they do that factor the place they make like 10 work in someday. Then we make a narrative to go together with it and I write down the precise phrases of their story. I can learn you one in every of them if you wish to hear it however it’s very clearly written by a 4 12 months previous or six 12 months previous. Then after they’re dry, we staple the sides all collectively and put a bit of binding on it. I print out the phrases after which we simply type of glued them onto the pages. It’s one in every of my favourite experiences as a result of you’ll be able to spend an entire day doing it. It’s simply a kind of issues that’s like uncommon as a result of it doesn’t all the time occur however when it does, it’s actually particular. They’ve each made them now. Then additionally our Moon River Music is our different factor the place it’s our snuggle tune and I extremely advocate anybody who’s a brand new mother or father to select a snuggle tune since you’ll by no means be capable of hear it the identical for the remainder of your life. It’s so particular.

Emma: Now whenever you say snuggle tune, it means type of just like the wind-down tune, like preparing for mattress?

Elsie: When Goldie was a bit of child, we used to make use of Moon River for her bottle tune each evening. It was the Andy Williams Moon River after which one other like, I can’t take my eyes off of you’d come on after it in order that was type of like her too. She thinks of these as her songs. Then with Nova, the Frank Ocean model of Moon River is our particular tune as a result of I don’t know someday in just like the early quarantine months we began this factor of like laying underneath a blanket, closing our eyes listening to the tune and it’s simply this magical cocoon-like feeling. it’s just like the densest type of nostalgia which you can presumably have. It’s very nice. I really like that.

Emma: Okay, most memorable. So, you understand, Oscar’s 9 months so he has one million like first. That’s what this 12 months is, it’s simply first every little thing. So the primary time I heard him cry, first time he gave me a bit of moist kiss. He’s now beginning to take steps. He can’t stroll with out holding on to one thing however he has this little toy pushcart factor and he walks round with it. He can type of stroll. Yeah, he’s getting there. So many first. One other little reminiscence that I didn’t completely notice I used to be even making it on the time was I wished to do a kind of year-long such as you take their image every month to be able to see them develop. You then put all of them collectively on the finish. So I made a decision to do one round meals as a result of as I already stated so many instances I’m a food-obsessed particular person. So I did it with donuts. So every month I do an image with him and it’s the identical field however clearly recent donuts however like the identical field, similar blanket. He wears a bit of white onesie. He’s clearly grown out of his first one so he’s rising and rising. You get to type of see how lengthy he’s in comparison with the field and his facial expressions and his hair fell out and now it’s come again in and it’s a unique coloration and like simply all of it. I even have a folder on my cellphone that’s like favorites, and it has all these photos in it. On the finish of the undertaking, I’ll most likely return and edit them in order that they match higher or no matter. Within the meantime, I like to have a look at this folder as a result of I like remembering the day that we do that photograph. Trey often helps me simply so it’s like a enjoyable expertise for everybody. Normally Oscars into it however this previous month he was fuzzy and he didn’t need to do it. I don’t comprehend it’s one thing about it is rather like particular the place I’m like that is our little factor we do every month and I simply take a look at the photographs and it’s like this enjoyable little bizarre second that I didn’t even actually notice I used to be making these little like reminiscence moments. I used to be simply desirous to do the photographs the place you watch him develop as a result of he grows a lot the primary 12 months. 

Elsie: Household photographs are positively memorable.  Whether or not it was second or a nasty second, you always remember the way you felt when these photographs had been being taken, for actual.

Emma: Yeah, this final one he has such a scowl on his face. I confirmed Trey and I used to be like, effectively, that is the perfect one we received this month. However it’s nice as a result of so lots of the months he’s like smiling and laughing. So I like seeing all of the completely different sides of him. So it’s actually nice. Doing my month lengthy factor once I’m carried out with it this June, as a result of, on June 2, he’ll flip one this 12 months, however I’ll put all of them collectively someday that month, and doubtless share one thing about it on the weblog. I simply suppose it’s a extremely enjoyable factor to do for those who get the possibility or you probably have any curiosity and also you’re going to have a child. I’d prefer to put collectively like perhaps an entire bunch of concepts that somebody may like, flick through and decide one thing or as a result of I don’t learn about you, however I didn’t really feel my most inventive once I had a new child. I identical to one thing the place somebody can type of assist me provide you with an concept. 

Elsie: So I’ve a pair extra favourite issues questions. These are ones that I simply collected from Instagram so Emma hasn’t had time to organize for any of those. I don’t suppose you want a lot preparation. Your favourite factor as a youngster.

Emma: To do like exercise? 

Elsie: Similar to your favourite factor? 

Emma: Most likely thrifting 

Elsie: Yeah, I’m gonna go together with She’s All That with Freddie Prinze Jr. That was my favourite film as a youngster and I nonetheless give it some thought generally. It had like, do you bear in mind just like the Six Pence None the Richer placements? The position of the century. I really like that film. Anybody needs to observe it, let’s have a film evening. Okay, your go-to espresso order.

Emma: Vanilla latte. How fundamental are you able to be? 

Elsie: I’ve two. So like 99% of the time, I might simply get like black espresso, particularly if it’s like my first espresso of the day.  I’m a black espresso particular person however each now and again once I’m feeling loopy. I get a chai latte and that’s my enjoyable drink.

Emma: Ooh, sure. Each from time to time I get a chai latte too and that may be a enjoyable, like altering it up. 

Elsie: They are often not that good however they may also be actually good. 

Emma: They could be a little watery. It relies upon the place you’re at. 

Elsie: Okay, you’re gonna love this one. So your favourite character from Harry Potter. I really feel prefer it’s implied which you can’t decide Harry, I imply, your favourite aspect character from Harry Potter. Ought to we are saying it that manner?

Emma: Okay. Sure, most likely Dobby, the home elf.

Elsie: I knew you had been gonna say that. 

Emma: I really like them. He will get it.

Elsie: I wrote down like 5 however I’m simply gonna say my primary obscure Harry Potter character is Fred and George. I really like Fred and George. I used to be telling Emma that my favourite second from all the films, apart from the Halloween dinner. That’s my primary. My second favourite film second was when Fred and George get their magic store. They spend a whole lot of time simply going via each element of the store and I simply actually preferred that scene. I give it some thought rather a lot. 

Emma: They do the fireworks dragon and disrupt the tip of the 12 months check. Elsie and I had been speaking about this, however like, if I used to be their mother, I’d be like, okay, you’re in hassle since you shouldn’t have carried out out of college. But additionally, what an important advertising and marketing plan. You nailed it. I’d be so proud. You bought everybody’s consideration and also you communicated what your retailer was and wow, like wonderful advertising and marketing.

Elsie: I do know that their mother is happy with them all the time. Okay, the final favourite factor is favourite holy grail skincare merchandise. The one, the one, the one, the one and I might say for mine it’s the factor I’ve purchased again and again essentially the most is how I chosen mine. 

Emma: I wager we have now the identical factor. Wait, perhaps we’ll see. 

Elsie: I picked the Blue Tansy Masks from Herbivore. Have you ever ever tried that?

Emma: Sure, I’ve and it’s superb.

Elsie: I like it. It’s my favourite masks. I imply, like I really like masks. I’m a masks particular person. I just about placed on a masks earlier than each single time I take a shower. It’s like a part of the ritual however this one is kind of like my stress-free masks. The scent of it’s so good. I simply actually like it.  Yeah, I’ll hyperlink it within the present notes.

Emma: Sure, I’ve used that and it’s nice. I used to be gonna say Leilani Bless Bomb as a result of that’s the factor I’ve purchased again and again each time I’m empty. 

Elsie: Yeah. It smells unbelievable and I really like that a lot. 

Emma: Yeah, it’s superior. 

Elsie: Okay, in order that was the tip of our favourite issues. So subsequent factor we have to talk about is our pet peeves. 

Emma: This was a listener query. 

Elsie: A listener query is, what are your random pet peeves? I really feel like everybody’s pet peeves are random. Isn’t that like type of the purpose of it?

Emma: I feel so. 

Elsie: Though one in every of mine I put is type of a major problem so I don’t know. 

Emma: Yeah, I’d say one in every of mine is type of severe, like larger factor. Then two are like, these don’t matter they only annoy me however it doesn’t matter if individuals do them. 

Elsie: Say yours first. 

Emma: Okay. My baby is like loud chewing. So that you’re simply chewing actually loud. Each from time to time, I really feel like I’m doing it. After I’m in a movie show if I like received some popcorn or if I received one thing that’s loud and there’s a second the place the film type of goes quiet and I can hear myself crunch. I’m like, dying on the within. As a result of I’m like, what are you doing? Like since you don’t know when a quiet second going to occur generally. I additionally don’t like listening to different individuals chew. So I’m like, oh my gosh, I’m making everybody hearken to me chew. I simply lose it. Anyway, in order that after which additionally having spacial consciousness whenever you’re in public. I swear it is a germs factor or a COVID factor. I’ve all the time been this manner. There are occasions like you’ll be able to’t assist it, you’re in a crowd, you need to contact individuals, they contact you, it’s not an enormous deal. However there are different instances like somebody will sit down very near me they usually don’t have to, or they’re like type of leaning on me they usually actually don’t have to. I simply don’t like that. I’m like, I don’t know you. Please don’t breathe on me.  I’m not the kind of particular person the place I really feel comfy type of pushing somebody off until they had been doing one thing that was like, really, such as you’re touching me in a bizarre sexual manner or one thing that I might push them off, however like simply leaning on me. They’re not likely realizing that they’re doing it. I don’t have it in me to be like, please don’t contact me. I don’t have a pleasant manner that I can consider to say that. So I’m simply not going to.

Elsie: Do you want simply scoot away?

Emma: Yep, if I can, or I simply die a bit of bit on the within and simply transfer on with my life as a result of it’s positive. It actually doesn’t matter. It’s not bothering them. It’s not doing something to me. I discover it and I don’t prefer it. So these are my two little issues they honestly don’t matter. 

Elsie: That’s fascinating as a result of I don’t really feel like strangers get into my private bubble area very a lot. So I’m like curious is like, am I not conscious of it?

Emma: That’s since you’re most likely doing it. Which I really observed that we had been strolling in Palm Springs, which I don’t care since you’re my sister and I do know you. You knocked into me a lot of instances and I don’t suppose you realized it in any respect.

Elsie: Okay, yeah, I feel I simply received caught.

Emma: Now you know the way loopy I’m. It doesn’t matter so like, why would I convey it up? I feel it’s best to say issues if it’s like an precise factor. That is actually not a factor and I don’t have to be so treasured. However I do discover it and it’s like in my little mind swirling. 

Elsie: It’s in your main pet peeve lists so I feel subsequent time it’s best to simply inform me to again away.

Emma: I’ll simply push you into the road. Contact me once more, I don’t prefer it. No, however these are like little issues that don’t matter.  I discover them however they don’t matter. The massive one which I type of suppose does matter that’s my pet peeve is rather like straight-up negativity. It’s cool to vent. I vent generally. I simply did it proper now about loud chewing individuals and people who contact me. I actually discover when I’ve informal acquaintances or informal buddies or if I’m in a piece assembly, and like individuals all the time veer in direction of negativity. I discover that and it’s one thing that I are inclined to type of again away from. I simply really feel prefer it rubs off on you and so I identical to don’t need to interact. I don’t like gossip. I don’t like turning down concepts whenever you haven’t actually explored them. I really like a satan’s advocate in a like exploring an concept of right here like doing the other aspect simply to see, that’s enjoyable to me. However to me, I don’t actually view that as being unfavorable. I view that as like really attempting to discover the factor from each side. However yeah, identical to straight-up negativity, like let’s sh*t discuss somebody I’m like, yeah, I’m not , truthfully. That’s not enjoyable for me. So yeah, I don’t need to do it.

Elsie: Cool. So I requested my husband Jeremy, like, what’s my pet peeve. He severely, he like sighed after which he walked into my workplace. Then he listed off like 20 issues in a row that had been all directed at him that had been petty. They had been all petty issues. It was not my excessive level of my day yesterday, however yeah, let’s simply say that, like, if I only recently cleaned a room, don’t depart a glass in there or don’t mess up the pillows. Go away it as you discovered it. However yeah, I hate myself a bit of bit for that and it’s no matter. It’s humorous. I’m laughing at it. However yeah, my on-line greatest pet peeve, that is positively like a mega occasion for me. Okay, is individuals it’s like oversimplifying. One other strategy to say is individuals who select one tiny narrative, to be the one focus or the one factor that they imagine. Lots of instances, it’s simply so irritating. I want that I may have again all of the hours of my life, most likely like lots of that I’ve wasted speaking to, arguing with, and enthusiastic about these conversations that weren’t even actually ever a two-way dialog, to start with. It was identical to starting with a mic drop. So I suppose that’s what I don’t like is like, for those who solely see issues a method, and that’s that. That is the start and finish of actuality and I’m proper, and nothing else anybody has to say will change my thoughts, then that’s positively my greatest pet peeve. It’s simply inconceivable to have a dialog. Womp womp.

Emma: Sadly, on-line that’s kind of a spot for all of that to fester as a result of you’ll be able to’t actually have a forwards and backwards dialog. Folks suppose you’ll be able to they’re like, oh, depart a remark. Somebody leaves a remark again and all that. It’s like, yeah, however individuals kind of like depart their remark after which drop out. That’s extra what occurs. They’re type of doing the mic drop. Actually what’s taking place is you’re performing as a result of you understand everybody else is watching. While you’re having a dialog simply with individuals, like Elsie and I proper now, we’re having an actual dialog and we acknowledge that we’re performing. We all know that lots of people are listening to us proper now. That’s completely different than when Elsie and I are speaking and we’re not being recorded. It simply is. I feel for those who’re not likely trustworthy about that then you definitely’re lacking the purpose. There are such a lot of individuals on-line who need to like give there like very slender perspective or little soapbox speech. They’re like I’m not performing. I’m simply doing the precise factor. It’s like, no, you’re performing. Perhaps you’re additionally doing one thing that you simply actually imagine in and that’s nice. It’s best to say the stuff you actually imagine in, however you can not actually be on-line and never carry out. That’s the character of it. So you’ll want to type of acknowledge that and be trustworthy about it with your self and with everybody round you, I feel as a result of in any other case, you’re simply lacking it.

Elsie: Yeah, that’s it. That’s a factor. Okay, subsequent matter.  Okay, we have now another listener query earlier than we do our e-book report. So I really like this query by the best way. It’s on the subject of DIYing what’s one factor that’s simpler than it seems to be and one factor that you’d by no means do once more? Okay, so for mine simpler than it seems to be, I’ve such a robust one I don’t suppose I’ve talked about this but is balloon arches. So balloon arches are, they’re fairly costly they usually’re actually lovely. They’re actually elaborate. I do know some individuals don’t like the best way they give the impression of being. When you love the best way they give the impression of being, right here’s what I might inform you. You can also make them in like two or three hours on the most. For a small one, it may be lower than one hour. I just lately made an enormous one. I’ll put an image within the present notes for our Chinese language New Yr celebration. It solely took me a few hours, I used to be capable of hearken to an audiobook more often than not. It’s simply a lot simpler than I ever thought it might be. So on the subject of events and stuff, I’ll all the time make my very own now if it’s one thing that I feel we’d like or need decoration-wise.

Emma: For my simpler, I put that I feel utilizing saws are simpler than you suppose. I really feel like a whole lot of instances individuals, this feedback I’ve seen, they’re like, oh, it is a cool undertaking, I’ll get my husband to do it or no matter. So the factor with saws and energy instruments usually is I really suppose they’re simpler to make use of more often than not greater than you suppose. However they clearly price cash, you’d have to purchase the device or hire it or borrowed from a buddy. You have a tendency to wish a whole lot of area. You want area for those who’re engaged on a bigger wooden undertaking. That’s only a actuality and for those who don’t have that, then that’s extra of a limitation I might say. However like really engaging in it, I don’t have very sturdy fingers. There’s a lot of instances I run right into a jar that I’ve a tough time opening. I perceive feeling like oh, I don’t know if I may try this like I get it. However usually, I might say that stuff’s simpler than you suppose. Simply if you are interested, however you’ve stopped your self earlier than since you’re like, I’m undecided my fingers are sturdy sufficient. I feel saws are simpler to make use of than a staple gun. I feel some staple weapons are inconceivable and a noticed really fairly simple.

Elsie: I haven’t tried that so that’s fascinating. However I’ve heard Laura make the identical case earlier than too.

Emma: Laura’s the queen too, queen of the jigsaw.

Elsie: For my by no means once more, so that is what I actually suppose you are able to do virtually any undertaking for those who can clear your schedule. Take the time and watch the YouTube movies, and provides your self the area to make a mistake and redo it. However for me, I feel my by no means once more is like attempting to squeeze one thing in, like attempting to complete.  I just lately, that is so unhappy. I’ll simply inform you as a result of it’s, it’s so unhappy however you can also make enjoyable of me in order for you. So I used to be bragging to Emma about how I used to be going to color our hidden library myself as a result of it saved cash. First, earlier than you paint it, you need to do all this prepping. It’s like caulking and sanding so I gave up. So I attempted, I spent like two complete days, not two complete days, however I spent two separate days with hours in that room attempting to fill the cracks. It’s like laborious just like the prep is manner, manner tougher than I believed it might be positively manner tougher than portray. After that I lastly was like, okay, I quit. I’m going to only textual content my contractor and inform him that I’m giving up and I have to have the paint individuals come again and do it. That’s what I did. So I feel that mine is rather like attempting to squeeze one thing into an area that gained’t go. I feel at completely different elements of your life you need to acknowledge like what capability like is it price it to me to do that DIY to avoid wasting this sum of money or is it extra price it to me to pay this cash to avoid wasting this time? 

Emma: I don’t know if I’ve a by no means once more. I used to be attempting to think about one as a result of I’m positive there’s issues I’m like overlook it. However there’s two issues that I considered are extra like, these had been a lot tougher than I believed, which is one, binding a quilt collectively. You’ve made the quilt high, and for those who’re doing a quilt backside, then you definitely’ve made the look however now you’re placing the batting in between and also you’re stitching these items collectively. It’s important to type of bunch it up in your machine whenever you’re doing the center of the quilt. It’s simply I believed actually irritating. Perhaps I simply have too small of a machine or I don’t know, however I used to be like, you understand what, if there’s a spot the place I may mail the quilt high to and they might try this stuff, I might pay for that as a result of it might look higher. I actually get pleasure from placing the items collectively, the puzzle that’s the high of your quilt that’s enjoyable. I like that half. However the stitching the entire thing collectively and type of like attempting to bunch it up in your machine however not get your strains all off. I didn’t get pleasure from that half. In order that after which the opposite factor that I simply would say is tougher than you suppose, no less than for me is Exacto knives. Anytime I’ve to do a undertaking the place I’m utilizing an Exacto knife, I simply in my thoughts bow all the way down to Laura Gunderman as a result of I simply don’t have the precision and drawing and expertise together with your fingers the place you need to do excellent strains and issues. I’m like, wow, I’m not good at this. That is a lot tougher than you suppose it’s. Even for those who use rulers and issues like that, it’s simply tougher than it seems to be.

Elsie: Yeah, no, I fully relate with that. I feel meticulous work, anybody who’s. 

Emma: I’m a messy, messy particular person. 

Elsie: Yeah. Anytime you watch somebody do even like a reasonably easy gallery wall on Instagram or no matter, it all the time seems to be 20 instances simpler than it truly is. That type of stuff is intensive in actual life for positive. 

Emma: Sure, for positive. 

Elsie: Okay.

Emma: Time for the e-book report. 

Elsie: Okay. So that is our final e-book of Q1. The e-book is Suppose like A Monk by Jay Shetty. I feel that I initially heard about this e-book from Laura.

Emma: This episode is kinda about Laura. We’ve introduced her up a couple of instances.

Elsie: She’s getting a whole lot of shout-outs. This e-book, I actually loved it. I completed it yesterday, simply within the nick of time. So it’s very recent on my thoughts, which is sweet as a result of generally if I do a e-book report, and I haven’t learn the e-book for a month or two, you’ll be able to type of inform. This e-book was nice. So Suppose like A Monk is a e-book by Jay Shetty about his time he spent 4 years as a monk. So he teaches classes from that point in his life. Now he’s dwelling, I don’t know what you name it like a civilian life. He’s not a monk anymore. He’s a public determine, writes books, occurring Drew Barrymore present. He’s married like not a monk. However he’s educating just like the takeaways and the rules, the issues that we are able to all profit from concerning the monk life-style. Really easy learn. I did love the audiobook. I really like his voice and it’s a kind of books the place every little thing you learn, you’ll be able to apply to your life instantly like at the moment. I’ll say that from the upfront, I haven’t had essentially the most expertise with meditating. It’s one thing that I’ve been desirous to get extra into, and I’m interested by, however it’s one thing that I feel I used to be nervous to strive otherwise you strive it a few instances and it doesn’t go actual effectively. 

Emma: That’s really what I might say it was one in every of my major takeaways, I suppose, It wasn’t that I didn’t need to learn the e-book or something. It’s simply that I believed it was going to be all about meditation. It’s really not and it does have that. That’s superior and necessary. However I’m simply type of placing that on the market in case anybody’s on the fence about checking this out. They’re like, effectively, I don’t know, if I need an entire e-book about meditation, I don’t know if I’ve spaced out my life, or no matter your hang-up may be. I feel it’s really much more about figuring out your core beliefs, or issues that may be out of your childhood that you simply’re like dwelling by, and perhaps you don’t have to be or perhaps you do have to be. It’s really about a whole lot of different issues, too. So simply placing that on the market in case anybody is like, I’m undecided a few meditation e-book. It has that however it has a lot extra. 

Elsie: Nicely, yeah, I’ll clarify all of the issues. However the factor I most received from it was this forgiveness chapter. It was extraordinarily highly effective for me. So I wrote down this quote, I cherished its Einstein quote, I don’t suppose I’ve ever stated an Einstein quote on this podcast, however it’s, for those who can’t clarify one thing merely you don’t perceive it effectively sufficient. I really like that quote. I feel that’s one thing that I’m going to consider as a result of a whole lot of instances I identical to to begin speaking and I don’t know what’s on the finish of the sentence. It’s a kind of. I feel that that’s one thing that Jay does very well within the e-book is it all the time. It feels quite simple. There was by no means part of it, the place I used to be like, that is overwhelming. There’s a forgiveness train within the e-book that I believed was extraordinarily highly effective. So I’m simply gonna clarify how the train goes. So even for those who don’t learn the e-book, do that half. I feel that all of us have, perhaps not all of us, however I had a few individuals in my previous that I used to be like, I need to do that train for this relationship and this relationship. So the train is type of particularly for somebody that you simply need to forgive, however you don’t should name them, you’re gonna write a letter, however you’re not going to ship it. It’s not like reopening an previous wound. It’s only for you and I feel that that’s actually cool. That is the type of factor my therapist is de facto good about giving me all these workouts. I’ve simply actually preferred them however that is one thing just a bit bit completely different from something I’ve ever tried earlier than. Okay, so right here’s the fundamentals. Step one is you think about your self within the different particular person’s footwear fully. After I did it, I discovered that to be a extremely deep supply of compassion, empathy, and simply actually heartbreaking. Then the subsequent step is you write them a letter, and also you already know you’re not going to ship it. So that you write the entire thing down and write every little thing about how they’ve wronged you and every little thing you’ll want to get out. Then after that, you make an apology for the issues that you simply’ve carried out unsuitable and the issues that you simply remorse. Then after that, you report your self in your cellphone, studying the letter. Then the final step is that you simply shut your eyes and also you hearken to the letter as for those who’re the opposite particular person receiving it. Then after that, that’s it you simply throw it away and transfer on together with your life. However I believed it was lovely, like, I don’t know.

Emma: Yeah, I really like the placing your self all the best way within the different particular person’s footwear. Yeah. Then in the long run imagining listening to this letter because the particular person and I feel it’s actually, actually highly effective. I actually suppose forgiveness is for us. It’s not likely concerning the different particular person, the one who’s wronged you otherwise you really feel has wronged you, regardless of the case could also be. It’s a lot extra like for us in our personal hearts.  I really like that this train that he provides us identical to fully about you. The opposite particular person might by no means even know. It doesn’t have something to do with them actually like so far as interplay. So in that sense, it is rather a lot about your personal coronary heart, and giving your self the area to heal and to type of see it from one other aspect, simply all of these issues that I feel we need to do, however it’s it’s laborious to do particularly after we’re indignant and we really feel damage.

Elsie: Okay, so one other half that I actually preferred, he says this a few instances all through the e-book, however it’s like a monk, would you say, a philosophy, the concept that everyone seems to be all the time concurrently a scholar and a instructor. I believed that was actually fascinating as a result of I really feel that manner in life. With our work, it’s like, we’re all the time educating, however we’re additionally all the time studying. It’s like all the time each, and also you by no means actually do get an opportunity. A minimum of I haven’t to be solely only a scholar, or solely only a instructor. So yeah. Attention-grabbing.

Emma: Yeah.

Elsie: Then the very last thing, there’s type of a, like a bit of little bit of like a profession train, the place you’re engaged on discovering your mission. I preferred this half the place he was speaking about specializing in strengthening your strengths, as an alternative of simply strengthening your weaknesses. It actually hit me in a great spot as a result of I feel that I spend a whole lot of time enthusiastic about my weaknesses and the way I have to do higher at them. I feel all of us do. We’re all most likely, for essentially the most half, fairly conscious of our weaknesses. I feel that to place that very same vitality into strengthening our strengths, just like the issues that we’re already nice at to change into even better in these areas, that’s an inspiring thought to me.

Emma: I prefer it. 

Elsie: I like it. A few of my issues that I used to be left with, that I nonetheless have to work on. Clearly,  the primary one is like, can I profit from a bodily letting go. So I’ve like a sophisticated relationship with minimalism. I like the thought of it. I like cleansing out closets and issues like that. Discovering my very own particular place inside that world as additionally an individual who simply loves to gather previous issues is bizarre. However that’s not all the time what it’s about, I feel that we are able to all the time let go of issues that we’re not utilizing anymore, or like litter and issues like that. Clearly, like monks have, like, it’s tremendous excessive model of it. He was speaking about how he solely had two outfits, and it was just like the one which he’s carrying and the one which’s being washed. Which that’s an entire nother degree that I’m by no means gonna expertise. So he was speaking rather a lot about how complaining and speaking sh*t, which I’m just like the worst complainer and sh*t talker. So I can elevate my hand in a minute in case anybody must really feel much less responsible. I’m the worst, worse than you. It has dangerous results like dangerous bodily results in your physique. He was speaking about how there’s a significant strategy to do, like remedy, it’s like a significant strategy to unleash your whole dangerous emotions and work via it. However then there’s additionally like, simply creating extra negativity in your life, to do it on a regular basis. That’s one thing that I’m gonna take into consideration, I’m going to work on. I feel it’s fascinating that you simply stated it was one in every of your pet peeves as a result of I feel I’m type of unfavorable. It’s like, a nasty behavior to have. 

Emma: I feel that’s a part of it’s it could actually change into a bit of little bit of a behavior. However as you talked about, I do suppose there are like, good instances to do it, prefer to your therapist, or your companion or no matter, whenever you’re working via one thing. However discovering that stability, I feel is necessary, actually taking a look at it, and like, why am I doing this? Is that this to assist me? Is that this to let one thing go? Yeah, the one factor I might add to your checklist that was wonderful simply now was I really like pondering extra concerning the core beliefs or values. I feel you touched on this a bit of bit as a result of it may play into profession. Truly, we talked about it a bit of bit within the final episode we talked about, or I discussed how, after we had been in Palm Springs, we had been speaking about type of just like the theme behind our model A Stunning Mess. How we wish it to be like, principally, we’re cheering individuals on to be inventive as a result of one in every of our core beliefs so far as a enterprise, I feel as individuals too, is creativity, as a result of it was an enormous theme of our childhood. So anyway, in an identical sense, I’m like, oh, I need to suppose a bit of extra about my core beliefs, simply as an individual. 

Elsie: So come on the weblog at the moment within the present notes and for those who learn the e-book, we’d love to listen to what your takeaways had been, particularly if it’s one thing completely different, or for those who disagree, or identical to something just about concerning the e-book. Yeah, I’m simply excited to speak with another individuals who have listened to it or learn it.

Emma: Additionally, together with the dialogue of this e-book. We’d like to know what stuff you would possibly need to learn as a result of we’re going to announce that I feel within the subsequent episode, like what our e-book alternatives can be for Q2.

Elsie: Sure, so okay, we’ve already just about confirmed the alternatives, however I’ll say that they’re 100% listener ideas. Yeah, each single one which we’re doing particularly like a few them was advised like 20 instances over. I feel you’ll be actually excited concerning the subsequent quarter’s books. We solely need to learn books that you simply guys are into so all the time inform us what you’re into. We nonetheless have three extra quarters to go this 12 months so tons extra books to learn. We’re excited. 

Emma: For positive. 

Elsie: Sure. Okay. So yeah, come again subsequent week, and we are going to reveal the subsequent e-book alternatives and we’ll be again subsequent week. 

Emma: Okay, bye. 


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