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The Gottman Technique {Couples} Remedy


What’s the Gottman Technique?

Drs. John & Julie Gottman, Ph.D.

John Gottman, Ph.D. has spent over 42 years finding out {couples} and has discovered to foretell with over a 90% accuracy charge, which {couples} would find yourself joyful, sad, or divorced, primarily based on this analysis.

This Gottman remedy analysis tells us what works and what does not. And we are able to now train you profitable methods to attach to one another.

It is not laborious to be taught, nevertheless it takes follow making use of it to your relationship. Not sensible perception, earth-shaking empathy, or exceptional persistence.


It additionally requires the a perception that your relationship is in Detrimental Sentiment Override (NSO), a short lived state, and never completely “doomed.”

This isn’t long-term work, nevertheless it requires a willingness to open up and to work laborious to make your relationship higher.

Making use of Science to Your Relationship

It is pure to argue or disagree with one another sometimes. However, when you end up combating along with your accomplice, and shedding respect for one another, it is time to tackle the scenario earlier than it will get worse. We will work with you and your accomplice that will help you higher talk and work via the problems that almost all impression your relationship.

John Gottman, Ph.D., is a researcher who has spent over 40 years finding out {couples} all through their lifespan. He checked out how varied life occasions impacted relationships together with…

  • Courting
  • Delivery of the primary youngster
  • Empty nest
  • Retirement

Along with his spouse, Julie, he developed a mannequin of Gottman remedy they known as “Gottman Technique {Couples} Remedy.”

His analysis regarded like this: 

He’d invite {couples} from all walks of life to his “love lab,” an condominium specifically designed by him to conduct his analysis.

Each second of their interplay, from morning till bedtime was recorded. The {couples} even wore physiological monitoring units (biofeedback) to watch their stage of coronary heart charge.

He even took blood samples. Why? As a result of he wished to understand how REAL relationships really labored.

He scientifically watched and recorded the {couples}’ voice, gestures, actions, speech, in addition to emotional and facial expressions.

He scored how they made choices, how they used humor, how they expressed affection, and the way they fought. He scored their videotapes and labeled what they mentioned whereas taking a particularly structured interview.

Dr. Ubiñas teaches new mother and father concerning the Gottman Technique.  She is finishing the Gottman Technique {Couples} Remedy Certification Monitor. 

Then he adopted them to see how their relationship labored out.

  • Who stayed collectively? 
  • Who remained joyful?
  • Who bought divorced?

As a part of the historical past of Gottman Technique {Couples} Remedy, Dr. Gottman then divided these {couples} into three piles: “Completely happy,” “Sad,” or “Divorced.” He then went again to the information and requested: “What’s completely different about these three couple teams?”

He discovered to foretell with over a 90% accuracy charge, which {couples} would find yourself joyful, sad or divorced, primarily based on this analysis.

In the event you’ve ever seen the TV present “Mislead Me,” it’s primarily based on Dr. Ekman’s work.

Drs. Okay and Ubiñas have accomplished Dr. Ekman’s superior coaching at an “professional” stage –training designed for these whose work requires them to judge truthfulness and to detect deception – reminiscent of police and safety personnel.

A rating of 80% is “passing.” A “certificates of experience” is issued when your goal rating is 95% or increased.

Analysis You Can Profit From

As in all Gottman remedy we file a selected structured interview (10 minutes lengthy), as a part of our evaluation.

And as instructed by Gottman {couples} remedy, we watch our {couples}’ facial expressions, and use Paul Ekman’s work to learn to acknowledge these “micro-expressions.”

These occur very, very fast–at a fraction of a second.

Full Work On-line to Save You Time and Cash

Gottman remedy has designed and validated a set of questionnaires particularly structured to offer a profile of strengths and weaknesses in a selected relationship. 

This gives us measurable and scientific data we are able to use that will help you.

Not guesswork.

Our Gottman {couples} remedy purchasers full this identical set of questions (with different devices together with ones on attachment (see beneath), and Dr. Okay’s personal devices on sexuality, in order that your {couples} therapist can full a radical evaluation. You’ll obtain the most complete evaluate of your relationship out there at present.

All of us at {Couples} Remedy Inc. use Gottman Technique {Couples} Remedy extensively. Drs. Wolfe, McMahonMcNulty,  Angela VoegeleHavi Kligfeld, Tim Donovan, and Rebecca Lanier are a few of about 350 Licensed Gottman {Couples} Therapists within the World.  

Drs. Wolfe and McNulty, are additionally senior Gottman Trainers, educating different therapists this mannequin internationally.

That is extra Gottman-certified therapists than some other group follow!


Victoria Joy
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