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The place’s the Hearth? I really feel like you might be my roommate (Encore)


That is an Encore Presentation, this podcast initially aired in January of 2018. 

Good day and welcome to The {Couples} Professional Podcast together with your host Stuart Fensterheim. We’re so pleased that you simply’re right here with us for the present. At present Stuart is discussing an all too frequent state of affairs for {couples}: When two individuals in a dedicated relationship find yourself residing like roommates as an alternative of lovers.  Hear in whereas Stuart addresses this acquainted downside.

Stuart usually talks in regards to the significance of 6 years. That’s the typical period of time that {couples} reside with their issues earlier than they search assist from a relationship counselor. These 6 years generally is a time of strife and battle; or it may be a time of lowering your relationship to residing as roommates. It is a horrible feeling both method. Feeling alone is so painful.

What you’ll be taught from right now’s podcast:

  • The most effective companions make the connection a high precedence of their lives  7:35
  • Respect and consideration (sensitivity) to your companion’s emotions is extra essential that getting your method or profitable an argument  8:39
  • Do you spend your time effort and vitality in your relationship? What about romance and emotional connection? 11:58
  • The most effective companions let small points go. Do you maintain onto resentments and preserve rating? 14:24
  • What would battle appear to be for you and your companion? 16:22
  • Why controlling your feelings is required as an alternative of getting offended, mentioning the previous, threatening to divorce, or escalating a difficulty 18:24
  • Why it is advisable to be a great listener. Are you listening to what your companion is making an attempt to let you know ? 25:09
  • An excellent companion shares in and is supportive of what their companion is excited about 28:57
  • An excellent companion is affectionate and makes certain their companion’s wants for contact and sexuality are taken care of 31:00

For those who’re residing separate lives, you aren’t working in your relationship. In an effort to preserve the eagerness and the love alive, you have to make your relationship the precedence. Spend time collectively, have adventures and make recollections.  It’s all in regards to the connection and conserving that zeal to your life collectively.  Maintaining that emotional connection is the one option to preserve your relationship from deteriorating into roommate standing.

We can not assume our companion is aware of how essential they’re to us. Now we have to by no means take them without any consideration, and to all the time allow them to know that they’re crucial particular person in life to us. Make investments your time and care into your relationship. Shock your companion, ship them presents, present them that you simply’re pondering of them. Court docket them, preserve the romance alive. In an effort to keep away from the roommate feeling it’s important to preserve the eagerness alive.

Take your companion and get away a few occasions a yr. Date nights as soon as a month, or extra usually as attainable. This stuff are essential to avoiding the roommate problem. It doesn’t matter how busy you might be, you’ll find the time if it’s essential to you. Don’t make excuses, don’t cop out. That is essential. Deal with your relationship with the care and concern it deserves. Be form and candy to at least one one other and preserve your emotional connection robust. It takes dedication on each your components. It’s not all the time simple, but it surely’s so price it.

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Thanks a lot for spending a part of your day with Stuart Fensterheim, The {Couples} Professional. We hope right now’s present has been useful and significant to you. Till subsequent time, keep optimistic, and keep related.


Victoria Joy
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